Anonymous asked:
/1/ I genuinely don't understand how people think they are being helpful by anonymously approaching someone to say "hey you're fat that's unhealthy you should work on that sorry" like...who does this person think they are? They don't know anything about you or your health, but they feel entitled to bring it up & advise you to lose weight. & honestly, even if you weren't healthy, it would still be fucked up. This is coming from someone who is fat & unhealthy & I promise you, anything like -
/2/ that bullshit is unhelpful & actually detrimental. People generally know if they’re healthy or not, no need to point it out. Using myself as an example, I’m fat due to a multitude of reasons, such as my general family history, hormonal imbalances, & the real kicker, mental fucking illness. Severe depression, anxiety, & an eating disorder. I am well-fucking-aware of my physical health because it’s tracked by my therapist & doctors. Some asshole speaking from a supposed place of concern -
/3/ won’t be the big hero that suddenly changes my life. They’re not dropping some crazy knowledge on me that I’ve never heard before & suddenly I realize I need to eat right & exercise properly. They’re just reminding me of how noticeable my weight is, only furthering my self-hatred & fueling my insecurities. If someone left a message like that for me, I would spend the rest of the day either avoiding mirrors out of despair & hiding from the world, so that no one has to see my hideousness, -
/4/ or I’ll spend the rest of the day obsessed with analyzing my appearance, almost as a punishment, forcing myself to look at the thing I hate most, myself. Basically, that anon you got is a fucking asshole & seeing that pissed me right the fuck off. Also, sorry for ranting & sending like 4 asks but I have many thoughts on this issue. Also, you’re really badass, I can’t believe you can deadlift that much & I’m glad you’re healthy & have a lovely day.
I totally understand what you mean like it does nothing but make me feel shitty like thanks buddy,,
thank you for the rant tho <3