Anonymous asked:
im not one-upping im saying one type of disability isnt more oppressed than the other
penis-peeper answered:
Yes it literally is. This is not the same thing as being trans or bi or gay or whatever you seem to think. Physically disabled people, especially people in wheelchairs, are cut off from society in ways that someone with adhd or depression are not.
The fact you think this way just shows how glaringly stupid and ignorant you are to the everyday lives of other disabled people. You are gaslighting people to protect your own fragile feelings about your disability that have nothing to do with us
Nobody has to live in your fictional world to make you feel valid. It’s literally YOUR PROBLEM that you feel invalidated by the existence of people who are sicker, and more disabled, and therefore more marginalized than you. And I’m not talking about myself.
Let me explain to you how I have been treated as a wheelchair user in the past:
-People have baby talked me while in the wheelchair. I'm 23 😬
-People have assumed my partner was my nurse and asked what time he "gets off work" while gesturing to me
-people have gasped audibly and asked "what happened to you?!" (i usually say I was born)
-I have been assaulted in public, someone grabbed my wheelchair thinking they were being helpful and dislocated my pinky when it got caught in the spokes
-Public access; the ministry of poverty reduction (disability office for government assistance) wasn't even wheelchair accessible. The door button didn't work and the sidewalk was too broken up to get over
-I got stared at on the fucking DAILY. DAILY. HOURLY!
-Strangers felt entitled to ask me the most random and rude questions. Some ranged from "does it hurt? The reason why you're in the chair?" To "if you can move your legs, can you drive?" To being asked by a man I JUST met, with my boyfriend RIGHT there, if I could have sex or "feel anything there"
-Every doctor I've seen has chastised me for doing what makes my pain less.
-No doctor ever believed me about my pain so instead I smoke weed until I'm fucking dizzy so I can goddamn sleep at night and not be kept up by crippling back and neck pain
-I have been abused by medical staff, routinely. I won't get into triggering specifics but I have been withheld my cane or wheelchair; I have been denied medications;I have been denied a walker to get to the bathroom which resulted in me deciding to walk unassisted to the bathroom. I didn't make it there, I fell and dislocated my knee when I landed on it
-I have been told straight to my face that they won't do anything about my neck pain because it would be a "waste of resources" to xray my neck and find out if I'm experiencing compressed nerves or not
-MY doctor has told me I need a cervical collar to protect my c spine because my EDS means my head is "too heavy" for my neck
When you're physically disabled and use any sort of mobility aid or have braces all over you people act like it's their god given right to treat you like a side show freak. I need you fucking people to understand that the way I was treated while using something that IMPROVED MY QUALITY OF LIFE was so abhorrent at times that I made the decision to put myself through MORE pain and MORE stress just to strengthen my ability to walk so I can avoid the wheelchair now as long as possible. I'll need it again one day that's a promise, my grandpa was a wheelchair user, my mom is one, one day I'll be one full time. But I CAN'T embrace it now, like I want to, because people ABUSE AND ASSAULT ME FOR IT.
You guys, I am FUCKING pleading with you, you are PRIVILEGED. You are not visibly physically disabled. Your invisible illness, yes even your mental illness, doesn't compare.
It's a different set of challenges and like listen, I GET it when nobody takes you seriously except randos online when you talk about your ND stuff it's easy to get narrow minded with your blinders on so you can be a "good progressive person" but like ignoring the unique and- majority of the time, traumatic- experiences of physically disabled people is HARMFUL. We're telling you that your ability to move in the world unhindered and mostly ignored by the general public is a privilege.
It's a privilege we don't have, because physically disabled people are side show freaks in the minds of the general public.
